The Moral Policing done by media on Feminism

Reinvent yourself, Preachers of Morality

The recent Uber incident shamed the country. And this is not the first time that India has witnessed such a dastardly act. Though we talk of ‘Development’ today, it also remains a fact that such rape cases are rising in number. This is the bitter truth. Molestation, Physical Harassment and Domestic Violence is what the women in India face almost daily. In some areas the situation is even worse. Ironically such incidents happen in a country which has a glorious past of worshipping Women! Worshipping The Goddess Gauri and Durga! This is the country who once regarded women as Goddess and Mother of All & in the same country we witness that women are treated even worse than animals. Rape seems to have become a daily issue with at one such incident being highlighted in newspapers or in media. Condition of women is not good , we all accept!

Women since ages have been blamed for being man handled. Every time a fatwa is declared banning girls from wearing jeans, using mobile and internet etc. The MSM calls it moral policing! Though some organizations give reason of the cultural obligations and all, the real reason as to why girls should avoid wearing tight jeans is still not accepted by girls and majorly by feminists , who are always involved in selective outrage and main stream media which thinks that to be modern means to have drinks, smoke, and wear so called modern clothes. No problem! Girls should wear clothes they wish but only those which don’t harm them and maintain the dignity of women. The real reason why girls should not be wearing tight jeans is because the nerves that run in outer part of the thigh gets compressed and the pressure on the nerves causes the symptoms like tingling, numbness and pain in outer part of thigh. This is proven and  Dr.Karen Boyel from Greater Baltimore Medical Centre says that this disorder is increasing day by day. This condition is called Meralgia Palenthetica. She further says in her interview to ABC ,’’sufferers report a floating sensation—basically, because they can't feel their lower legs—along with pain in the thighs. Ouch. Unfortunately for women, the problem can be exacerbated by high heels, which cause the pelvis to tilt, increasing the pressure on the nerves in question.’’ While the west is already rejecting its attire and is engaging more with Indian attire like Kurta’s and Saree’s even Leggings what we are doing in the name of modernization is that adopting west which in turn is rejecting itself!! And if this writer asks girls to wear less of tight jeans, ultimately this author will be turned down and called an orthodox! So be it. But the media and the feminists who are actually outraged by such comments from khaps or other organizations only debate and indulge in blame game instead of searching for the real reasons behind the repeated occurrence of violence against women.

One day a rape case is highlighted by MSM and Feminists are out in media but not once did I saw these feminists wearing modern clothes! What instead I see is that they are either in Saree or in Kurta! Interestingly the people who say they are voicing women don’t actually understand that they are not! What an Indian household wife thinks is far more civilized than what these people talk of. Ask any household woman about increasing rapes, her answer will be that girls should act as per a women’s dignity & feel free to speak and boys need to understand their limits. But how will the show go on if blame game is not debated? Instead of debating on reasons, causes and effects of such incidents and drawing a conclusion out of it one side blames girls for the clothes they wear and other side blames boys for their mindset. And some politicians gain importance by giving statements in media out of turn. That’s it! Two day coverage and every one forgets what happened yesterday.

Its really amazing to note that feminists lecture men on morality but are enraged when they are told the real meaning of morality. Are men always to be blamed for all rape cases declared to be one without investigations by media ? We saw what happened in Badaun and what these people declared it to be! Ultimately because of this what happened is that this matter was dragged into UN and UN gave a statement on this saying UN is worried over such Badaun incidents happening in India! (In reality, badaun was not a rape case at all! But India was lauded for this!)Who is to blamed? When CBI concluded its findings no one absolutely no one debated the issue! And who gained importance? My Country! Which is now being recognized as a country of rapists! Media is not be blamed but the whole system which works in media pressure and of course the society. What can be concluded then??.

Some say we need to toughen the laws. But the already tough laws are paving way to its misuse!  One day we shout out loud against violence and the other day we forget it while we all are silent when women themselves misuse the laws for their own sake.  No one reports the cases where innocent men are accused of rape & in reality are absolved! Still the outrage continues as if women are still ‘Abola Nari’.  The NCW, Delhi itself has said that women are actually filing false rape cases! Consider this:  While in 2012, the acquittal rate in rape cases was 46%, in the first eight months of 2013 (for which exact figures are available) it shot up to 75%. Sources said acquittals remain high this year as well, accounting for around 70% of the cases. Legal experts say the high acquittal rates are because of a spurt in the number of false rape cases being filed. The observations of judges in acquittal cases also bear this out. "This is an unfortunate trend. In many cases, women come up with the plea that they had registered the case out of anger and due to misunderstanding," said additional public prosecutor A T Ansari, one of the main prosecutors in the Nirbhaya case. A senior woman lawyer has  said, "It's sad but true. Registration of false cases is rampant and hence, the alarming acquittal rate. The new law is being misused because of the widened definition of rape." Experts feel the amended law is "widely-worded" and "ambiguous" in parts and lends itself to misuse. In around 90% of acquittal cases, the victim turns hostile. Mostly, it turns out to be a case of a relationship gone bad. The sex is consensual but the victim claims that the consent was given on account of promise of marriage. Worried over the disturbing trend of false complaints, even fast track courts trying cases of sexual offenses have been raising concerns over the matter. In July last year, while acquitting a 75-year-old man of the charges of raping his maid, a fast track court observed that the capital has earned the notoriety of India's rape capital because of the increase in false rape cases being registered in the city. The alleged victim in this case had admitted that she registered the case because she wanted to usurp the accused's property. In some cases women have admitted that they filed false cases so as to bury their embarrassment on extra marital affairs! Are we still going to claim women are ‘Abola Nari’?

This writer read the open letter written by Sehnaz Treasurywala, as a girl myself, I appreciate her bold act and some of her questions should really be looked into and stand by her for all that she suffered and even many women suffer the same daily. In her letter he asks for help from Film fraternity and blames the PM for condition of women. I found this a bit rhetoric! After all, many men have accepted that a girl’s dress do incite their feelings! I m not blaming girls but this is the fact   what men think of us and it should be actually accepted by us. This is one of the main reason behind molestation as thought by men! Yes Men should be taught the lessons of morality but at the same time we too should introspect! And where does NaMo comes in between, Miss Actress? In this case, the Indian Govt is trying to do its best to secure women, and provide secure transport to women and u blame the Govt and ask for help from film fraternity!! Many parents have said and admitted that the films do have some bitter impact on boys and girls providing them a chance to get a bit immoral!! Even if Govt provides security still some cases appear still the one to be blamed is Govt. And what will Govt do? Bring laws and nothing. Govt cannot preach morality! We need to rise above Govt! What NaMo speaks in US, Australia or elsewhere is that of dignity for women as he’s expected to do so. But its not Govt but our society which is to be blamed actually. Still we conveniently turn a blind eye to this reality. Men need to understand that Woman is his sister, his mother and his wife and even his daughter!

 Instead of being fair with all, we are supporting that which is wrong and condemning that which is right & it  has become a habit! Where are we heading to? In name of modernization we are forgetting the Indian values and morality. Here yet again morality is not preached by these organizations who declare fatwa and orders but is taught in the society. The society is getting more and more of material and less of morality! Its the society that is producing the rapists as well as racists and also the girls. If anyone is responsible for this is the society which was unable to adapt its culture according to changing times. This selective outrage does not mean empowering women! We cannot even blame the Govt as even Govt has some limits! The responsibility lies with the society as to how it wishes its future generations to be? How does it wishes its own future to be? And how do we wish our future India be? We need back the same India which worshipped Women as Goddess and even took care of her as a special person. Why is it that this land once produced Gargi, Maitreyi, Draupadi, Sita, and today is also responsible for Nirbhaya and Veera? Blame Game has to stop and Society has to revisit itself and reinvent the ways of its teachings. After all its not the male, female, media or Govt that forms the nation; its the society that forms the nation and decides its future.